Breaking free from the prison of “The Past”

“Breathe. Let go and remind yourself that this very moment is the only one you know you have for sure” – Oprah Winfrey

“Free yourself from the past” or “let go of the past”- doesn’t this invoke a sense of déjà vu?

Life is cyclical. There are peaks and troughs in each of our lives. Unfortunately, we hard wire our brains to hang on to the moments that have been unpleasant or rather I should say difficult. We travel back to the past and re-live those moments of pain and suffering each day of our lives.

Little do we realise that those moments of the past are long gone. Life is short. All we have is NOW. Every moment, every day is new and presents us with opportunities to create new experiences. Each experience propels us to explore an unchartered territory and helps us discover new and interesting facets to our personality. It’s all about viewing the world with a different lens. We have been blessed with the gift of “Choice”. While circumstances may not be in our control, how we choose to act in those circumstances is determined solely by us. We can choose to complain, wallow in self-pity, blame others and situations for the way we think and feel. On the other hand, we can choose to pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off and march forwards to create a better today.

Each one us has different lessons to learn in life. Life unfolds in a certain way to enable us to learn these lessons. For example, each one of us wants to control and direct our lives in a certain way. We refuse to surrender and go with the flow. We will continue to encounter situations in some form or the other where we have no control over what is happening until we “learn to surrender.” It is just like making kids repeat a certain task until they get right.

If we analyse our lives carefully, there is a pattern to it. When we encounter situations where we are trying to avoid or escape from something, the lesson to be learnt is confrontation. When we are presented with experiences which cause hurt and resentment, the lesson to be learnt is forgiveness.

When we start viewing our experiences positively, look for a deeper meaning in them and just go with the flow, life becomes so much easier and so much more fascinating.

We are obsessed with complicating things instead of simplifying them. All we need to do is: “Let go of yesterday, remember the lessons and embrace today to create a better tomorrow.” – Kavitha Rai